When was the last time you told a friend, boss or family member, “no” simply because. If you find yourself feeling this way often, you might want to look at your perspective.
Putting the needs, wants and desires of others before your own at the expense of your emotional and physical health might be preventing you from living the life you desire.
Asking your client to journal the week’s key activities and feelings can help the client see in black and white how often he is accommodating others at the expense of his own happiness.
Once the client has awareness of his tendency to over-accommodate, he can begin to explore his feelings and to imagine his life differently.
Assertive behavior balances the courage to speak one’s mind with consideration for other’s feelings and perspectives.Looking at these beliefs together with his coach provides the opportunity for the client to dispel myths and to proactively eliminate beliefs that are no longer serving him.After exploring beliefs and consciously making the decision to live differently, the client is ready to shift his perspective.Reflecting back the client’s words showing trends in behavior can sometimes create awareness for the client.Another good tool for creating awareness is journaling.