What I tell my kids and their friends is that if they want to ensure that they will never be married in the future to each other, then become more than friends now.
Because that relationship will have no where to progress to other than temptation.
Dating with Purpose is a process, one that shouldn’t be rushed lest we give away something that we should be saving for our spouse and to be honest, we just don’t know who God has prepared for us until we go through the process of finding a friends whom we are attracted to and is attracted to us, entering into a discernment of marriage and ultimately exchanging vows before God and our friends and family.
The relationship with our spouse is designed to be one of a kind, second only to our relationship with God, that is how special it is.
Speaking clearly and honestly in a relationship can often spare many heartaches.
I have found that preparing a relationship for a friendship and leaving the romance out completely or at least to a minimum during this beginning friendship stage is very important.
It is so easy to lead with our emotions instead of our heads and it leads us down a path we might not be ready to go.
It is very important for men and women to understand what is appropriate conversation and contact.
She says, “Even though emotional chastity can often times be harder to maintain then physical chastity, it is so important!
This article seeks to suggest practical tools for guarding one’s heart. Remember, this is just a friend, someone that you have something in common with and so limit your conversations to planning an outing with friends, talking about something relevant to your shared interests such as band, youth group, or a sports activity.
The more you talk about nothing, the more likely you are to share too much too soon and turn a good friendship into something more when neither of you are ready to take it to that next step (see the recommendations for when to start dating in my previous article).
In my first article, Dating with Purpose, I provided the big picture of how youth, with the assistance of their parents, can navigate the rough waters of relationships and approach them with maturity and purpose.
This article delves deeper into how to interact with other people in appropriate ways. In pursuit of that love, we are tempted to give ourselves away and surrender to another so as to have our physical or emotional need for love satisfied. One is by surrendering your physical self, which we hear about often, and the other is by surrendering our emotional self.