Christian dating emotional boundaries
They want to build up girls to place God at the heart of their decision-making and entrust Him with their fears and insecurities, their hopes and dreams.
If you have clear property lines, maybe even good strong fences, as the illustrious Robert Frost recommended, you know when someone is trespassing, and you can hold him or her accountable.
While the Bible does not clearly outline the ‘thou shalt/shall nots’ of dating (dating isn’t even a concept in the Bible), from what I’ve seen, typical Christian dating begins with sly glances at each other during worship, a lot of prayer and deep consideration.
This is often followed by a few casual dates before the eventual mutual decision that yes, this person loves Jesus, I could see myself with them long-term and we’re going to make things more serious. After the hand-holding incident we were friends for a few years before sharing a few lust-driven kisses followed by one long, awkward summer during which we were NOT dating but would use every moment alone to… So when we eventually decided to make things officially official, we basically just continued along as we’d been doing before but with a little bit more of an emotional commitment and the change of our relationship statuses on Facebook. We eventually realised that our lack of physical boundaries were preventing us from connecting on a deeper emotional and spiritual level.
More Precious is a blog that includes contributions from girls all over the world, sharing stories of their journeys of faith and their walk with God.
Their vision is to encourage girls from a young age to be strong and distinctive in their Christian faith throughout their most formative years.
You may be thinking, ‘Hang on, I’ve just found someone I really click with, and you’re telling me to put on the brakes?!
This example demonstrates a healthy separation when actions are causing anger or sadness. Compliant people (people-pleasers) need stronger boundaries. While boundaries provide good healthy principles for everyone, compliant personalities tend to be the most boundary-injured, due to their strong inner desire to please those around them.I’m about to get rather personal, so please be prepared for teenage angst and cringe-worthy stories about awkward fumbling in dark corners (you have been warned).I met my husband Tim when I was 16 at a friend’s fancy dress party.This does not mean we do not care about our parents, but they are no longer our highest authority.We consult God, ourselves, and our spouse first and take care of our own boundary lines in life. Friendships are based on attachment and strengthened by boundaries.