Dating for a month
I still have work, hobbies, friends and family to deal with.Mixing him in and making sure he gets the majority of my attention isn’t easy. For some reason, parents seem to understand, but friends don’t.They seem like fun, but it’s this painful whirlwind that doesn’t let me relax and actually enjoy being with a guy until several months in. I don’t think gassing him in the first three months is going to make him love me more. Frankly, I don’t want to introduce him to everyone yet. start making the rounds, I keep worrying what they’ll think of him. Plus, I’d like him to see me as much better than his exes. I feel like these first three months are the same as starting a new job.Here’s why those first three months are so hard: It all seems so fake. You have this probation period where if you’re not good enough, you get let go without any real explanation.I would think they’d get it since they perform the same disappearing act when they’re seeing someone new.Still, it’s not until I’m finally able to make more time for them that they stop acting like jealous children. While I’m not one of those eat a light salad kind of girls during a first date, I still don’t want to eat the world’s messiest burger until I’m sure he’s sticking around a while.
While I love the extra time, I hate what it does to the rest of my schedule.
This includes believing that "things can always get better" and turning "obstacles into opportunities and adversity into lessons." Jill Avery-Stoss is a graduate of Penn State University and a writer and editor based in northeast Pennsylvania.
Having spent more than a decade working with victims of sexual and domestic violence, she specializes in writing about women's issues, with emphasis on families and relationships.
I want to be able to eat junk food, make a mess and belch my approval when I’m finished.
Trust me, most guys don’t find this impressive until at least several months in. Crystal Crowder Crystal Crowder is a freelance writer and blogger.