Secretly dating my boss
It’s not surprising that many people develop feelings for their colleagues, with whom they share a common mission, and who they may work beside for hours and hours, day after day.“You spend time together,'' says Jean Baur, a career coach and author of books on how to rebound from a job loss and how to excel in an interview. and in most cases, you get to really know people slowly, which is an awesome foundation for a relationship.’’Sandra Gasparovic, 48, who met her husband Michael, 52, when both worked for Michelin North America's information technology department, says that being in the same workplace environment and having the same work-based friends aided their romance."Having that commonality, sharing the same things, has certainly helped,'' says Gasparovic, who is currently a career manager for Michelin while her husband is a purchasing agent for the company.
"You get to partner up with different people, work creatively with them. Still, when a co-worker initially wanted to set the pair up back in 1999, both resisted for over a year.
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Beach picnics, movies in the South Bay, drive-by kisses in downtown before I went to class, and late-night appearances at my apartment that involved much more intimacy than booty calls quickly dwindled into a sort of resentment toward our stealthy situation.
Before Mary Baker and Nicole Mezlo were spouses or even friends, they were colleagues, working for the same public relations firm in Washington D. When they finally began dating, they kept their courtship secret for nearly three years, not telling their co-workers until they became engaged.
And while their relationship led to a loving marriage, both say anyone who considers dating a colleague needs to embark down that path with their eyes wide open.“It’s hard for me to say to somebody not to take a risk when for me, it turned out so well,'' says Baker, 35, who no longer works for the same company as Mezlo, 40.
If a couple doesn't disclose a workplace relationship that seems to be in violation of corporate policy, Yost of SHRM says "I'd feel more obligated to let human resources know of my concerns.''Ultimately, even if your romance began at the office, putting a little distance between corporate and personal lives can be a good thing, says Baker, who met her wife in January 2008 and began dating her eight months later."It was a bonding moment at the beginning of the relationship,'' she said about sharing workday experiences when they were previously employed by the same company.
He told me he fell for me the second I walked out of the dressing room in that Norma Kamali dress. This was my first job in high-end retail in Los Angeles and I was going to explore all of its benefits. I prayed that he wouldn’t kiss me when he got out of the car to let me off at my apartment.